For the first time in such a long time, I can honestly say that I feel in a much happier place both mentally and physically. I was clearing out the cupboard the other day (how is it Autumn already), when I came across a few bits that hold some negative memories for me. I realised at this point how far I have come. Although I did tell Dan I felt like I had found myself in the cupboard (erm, well I know what I meant!).
The happier I have started to feel, the more positive I have begun to feel about my wellbeing. I feel like I genuinely want to look after myself. Finally, I want to go to yoga, drink water, read for pleasure. I even feel inspired and want to write my blog. It didn’t happen overnight, but here are a few things I did to get to where I am now.
Stop beating yourself up
We all make mistakes. We all get things wrong. The difference is how we deal with it. There is a vast difference between accepting that we are just human and we all get things wrong and continuously beating ourselves up. I still beat myself up, but now I try to let it go. I have found journalling helps, I write down what I did wrong, how it made me feel and then hopefully I won’t make the same mistake again. Or sometimes, I’ve even looked back on what I’ve written and thought what are you even worrying about!
Stop comparing yourself to others
As with the first point, you can never be happy whilst you are comparing yourself to other people. There will always someone who is prettier, thinner, has a better job, is a better blogger, etc. BUT they are not you. You are a unique, incredible person with limitless potential – go grab life and live the life you love!
Yoga and mindfulness
Getting back into yoga and mindfulness has really helped my sense of wellbeing. I love the fact you can learn to clear your mind. I am terrible for living in the past or worrying about what I haven’t done or need to do. The power of learning to switch off, even if it is only for a short time, has been priceless.
I love reading, and one of the first signs I am not feeling myself is when I don’t want to read. I love reading for fun (as in not books for my Masters). Firstly, I love fiction and have read some fantastic books this summer. I also love positive books, I guess you could term more on the self-help shelf. Currently, I’ve been loving, The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying, Get Your Sh*t Together and Life Satisfaction.
Embrace your inner ‘Dancing Queen‘
Dance like nobody is watching (well, they aren’t but you know what I mean!). If you don’t want to annoy your neighbours, pop your earphones in and put your favourite playlist on. And just dance! It is so good for your mental health, it’s great exercise and it’s also great for the calorie burning too! I love a good boogie around the flat, and I’m sure it’s entertained the neighbours on more than one occasion before I’ve noticed they can see me!
What do you do to make you happy?
Lots of love,