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Five Little Steps Towards Happiness

For the first time in such a long time, I can honestly say that I feel in a much happier place both mentally and physically. I was clearing out the cupboard the other day (how is it Autumn already), when I came across a few bits that hold some negative memories for me. I realised at this point how far I have come. Although I did tell Dan I felt like I had found myself in the cupboard (erm, well I know what I meant!).

The happier I have started to feel, the more positive I have begun to feel about my wellbeing. I feel like I genuinely want to look after myself. Finally, I want to go to yoga, drink water, read for pleasure. I even feel inspired and want to write my blog. It didn’t happen overnight, but here are a few things I did to get to where I am now.

Stop beating yourself up

We all make mistakes. We all get things wrong. The difference is how we deal with it. There is a vast difference between accepting that we are just human and we all get things wrong and continuously beating ourselves up. I still beat myself up, but now I try to let it go. I have found journalling helps, I write down what I did wrong, how it made me feel and then hopefully I won’t make the same mistake again. Or sometimes, I’ve even looked back on what I’ve written and thought what are you even worrying about!

Stop comparing yourself to others

As with the first point, you can never be happy whilst you are comparing yourself to other people. There will always someone who is prettier, thinner, has a better job, is a better blogger, etc. BUT they are not you. You are a unique, incredible person with limitless potential – go grab life and live the life you love!

Yoga and mindfulness

Getting back into yoga and mindfulness has really helped my sense of wellbeing. I love the fact you can learn to clear your mind. I am terrible for living in the past or worrying about what I haven’t done or need to do. The power of learning to switch off, even if it is only for a short time, has been priceless.


I love reading, and one of the first signs I am not feeling myself is when I don’t want to read. I love reading for fun (as in not books for my Masters). Firstly, I love fiction and have read some fantastic books this summer. I also love positive books, I guess you could term more on the self-help shelf. Currently, I’ve been loving, The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying, Get Your Sh*t Together and Life Satisfaction

Embrace your inner ‘Dancing Queen

Dance like nobody is watching (well, they aren’t but you know what I mean!). If you don’t want to annoy your neighbours, pop your earphones in and put your favourite playlist on. And just dance! It is so good for your mental health, it’s great exercise and it’s also great for the calorie burning too! I love a good boogie around the flat, and I’m sure it’s entertained the neighbours on more than one occasion before I’ve noticed they can see me!


What do you do to make you happy?

Lots of love,
Helen xoxo


Hi, I’m Helen. I run the lifestyle and wellbeing blog, Helen Loves. It’s all about inspiring you to live the life you love. With tips and tricks to live a more stress-free, simple life and boosting your confidence and self-esteem. I hope you enjoy! Lots of love, Helen xoxo

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    • Helen Loves 24th September 2018 / 4:38 pm

      Aww thank you lovely! Yes, it’s amazing when you look back isn’t it 🙂 x

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    Sunkissed Scribbles
    21st September 2018 / 9:00 pm

    Great tips here. I agree with reading for pleasure and dancing (although I can’t dance but it’s fun!). I keep meaning to try yoga again. I tried it once before but don’t think I was doing it right as I felt no benefit. So I’d love to give it another go 😀

    • Helen Loves 24th September 2018 / 4:54 pm

      Hehe I can’t dance either! Think yoga has lot to do with the teacher at first. We have a great lady and she makes you feel good about what you’re doing (even if when you know you aren’t good at it!) x

  2. Avatar 21st September 2018 / 9:48 pm

    I love this post! I love reading too and it definitely provides a good distraction. I totally agree that not comparing yourself to others is essential to be happy too- we all do it way too much!

    Soph – https://sophhearts.com x

  3. Avatar 21st September 2018 / 11:40 pm

    I love your little steps towards happiness. I like the idea of exercise with music. Reading also makes me happy.

    You are so right about comparing yourself to others. That is a Must!

  4. Avatar 22nd September 2018 / 12:17 am

    Loved this post and there’s some great tips in there. I keep saying I want to get into this whole mindfulness thing as I’ve heard so much good stuff about it. But I never do it! Need to kick myself up the bum. And as for the comparing yourself to others thing – I’m so guilty of this. I know it isn’t a healthy thing to do, so again I need to kick myself up the bum about this too! Great post xx


  5. Avatar 22nd September 2018 / 1:41 pm

    Ah this post is amazing! Really love your tips, I defo love embracing my inner dancing queen haha xx

  6. Avatar 23rd September 2018 / 10:59 pm

    What a lovely post! I’m glad things are going so well for you lovely, it’s always funny to reflect on how life has changed. Even if it means finding yourself in the cupboard! 😉 x

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