So, you’ve been dating a while and it’s all going well, the next big dating mile stone is the ‘I want you to meet my family’. This is going to be met with joy that this is really going somewhere, but it is probably up there with the nerves of the first date. So how do you deal with meeting your boyfriend/girlfriend’s family and friends?
1. Be yourself – they need to love for you at the end of the day.
2. Don’t drink too much. Yes, like the first dates, nerves will get the better if you. You will regret it in the morning when you remember stroking his grandmother’s face saying I love you!
3. Do not announce at the dinner table “I want to marry your son”. He will find the nearest exit before the first round is finished!
4. Take his mum flowers? This all depends on how long you’ve been together before he introduces you (and obviously if his mum is into flowers!). If they have known about you a few weeks/months before meeting you and the anticipation has grown, then it’s a nice ice breaker.
5. Find out a bit about them beforehand. What do they do/like to do. Most importantly what are their names! I am shocking when it comes to names and I couldn’t remember his mum’s name (sorry if you ever read this!).6. Dress appropriately. Even if your boyfriend thinks you look hot, his mum and dad don’t want to see too much on display. Think elegant and beautiful, not sexy and hot!
7. To hug or not to hug? I’m a really touchy feely type of person, so it is really natural for me to hug people. I also think it breaks down barriers. Most mum’s will think it’s endearing if their son has been talking about you non-stop for months. I would however gauge their reaction to you when you meet and be respectful of their body language.
8. Be honest. Again as with first date nerves, it is hard to feel you might not live up to their expectation, but the last thing you want is for them to later realise you are not who they thought you were.
9. Don’t judge yourself by his ex or feel they are comparing you to her. If they are then there is something wrong.
10. As tempting as it may be, don’t just cling to your boyfriend’s side. Be brave and sit by his mum and get chatting 🙂
If you are about to meet his parents, then I wish you the best of luck. They’ll love you!