I am sure for many of us, we will go through at least one major break up during our lives. Whether it’s a bad break up or a mutual decision, you will go through such a variety of emotions. You will feel everything from anger, upset, desperation, liberation, sadness, guilt, rejection, to that horrible panicky feeling when you feel that everything is out of your control.
The hardest part of a relationship breakdown is accepting that it is finally over. Once the decision has been made, it is really important to stick to it. If there is no going back, you will need to accept this and allow yourself to grieve. Only once you start to accept it’s over can you begin to move on.
I wanted to consider some of the things to help you through the initial stages of a break up and starting to move on.
Tell someone how you are feeling
Avoid contact with your ex
Maybe in time you will be able to be friends with your ex, but don’t kid yourself that you can suddenly switch off your feelings, this will take time.
It is important to try to resist the urge to contact your ex, unless you really have to. Especially do not send drunken texts, as all you will do is lose your own self-respect and just feel worse in the morning.
Whether it be chocolate, shopping or a pamper treatment, just make sure you do something nice for yourself.
any of you who have seen the film Sliding
Doors, a new hair cut can make you feel like a new person!
The most important thing however, to do during this time is to learn to love yourself for you as an individual.
Remember when you are ready, love will find you
someone is meet someone new, but rebound relationships will rarely last. Why
not wait, learn to rely on yourself, love yourself and then love will find you when the time is right.