In England the weather has started to cast her Autumnal vibe (save the bank holiday weekend summer glory – what was that all about!). That means only one thing; it’s back to school. This year is a feeling of a nervous excitement and please let that continue. This time last year, was very different. A long story for a different day, but I’ve spent a lot of time getting to this point.
I’ve been MIA in blogosphere for a while now. One of the main reasons has been because I just didn’t feel I was “good enough” if I’m really being honest. I’ve finally started to turn a corner, but it really got me thinking: why do we suffer from low esteem and more to the point, what can we do when we start to doubt ourselves?
Look back and try to see where the self doubt started: For me, I think it started at high school. I think for the first time I felt quite alone and it was big and scary. Academically, I didn’t achieve (what I know now, I was more than capable of). I just didn’t see the point, if I’m really honest. It was only when my friends left for uni I had a massive wake up call. I think I’ve spent the rest of the time trying to “fix” this.
Make friends with YOU: The hardest thing sometimes is to realise that it’s actually ok just to be yourself. Personally, looking back; I’ve always been naturally quite a shy and insecure person. For some reason, I felt this was a bad thing and soon learnt to put on a fake front. I would hide behind the smile, then the laugh and the fact that I am (*cough*) quite dippy at times. It was easier to make people laugh, rather than just being genuine and letting them see the real me.
Talk about how you are feeling: I don’t know why, but I am one of those people who doesn’t like to talk about their feelings. This unfortunately led to me ultimately suffering from anxiety. If I had spoken up, it might not have got to that point.
Stop beating yourself up: I’ve finally realised I was my own worst enemy. I was the one who stopped me from doing things. The dialogue in my head for the most part has been a constant self-criticism. Ultimately, I couldn’t do whatever because I had convinced myself I wasn’t good enough and I couldn’t do it.
Rid yourself of those toxic people: Whether it is negative people who make you feel down on yourself, or an actual bully. It is time to rid these people from your life. Whether it be by just ending the relationship, or confiding in someone who can help you to end the situation. It’s time to do it now. Once you have grieved or taken time out. It will be ok, promise.
Take small steps to boost confidence: By stepping out of your comfort zone, once a day, once a week. It will do wonders for your self-esteem and you will soon start to build up your confidence.
Just do it! What are you waiting for. Life is too short. It isn’t a dress rehearsal…blah, blah… I’m all clichéd out now, but you get my drift!