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Why I Didn’t Take My Husband’s Name

I’ve been reading a few posts of late from ladies saying why they are taking their husband’s surname once they’re married. Each to their own. It is such a personal decision, but I often get asked about why I didn’t take my husband’s name.

Why I didn’t take my husband’s name

Personally, it wasn’t for me. I love the banter that Dan and I have and many of our inside jokes are over our surnames and I love our little partnership.

I don’t even have the ‘best’ of surnames, but hey it’s my name. The thought of changing my name felt a bit like becoming someone different and it just didn’t feel right. We did both consider double-barrelling to have the same name, which I know is another hugely popular decision.

Mrs who?

I changed from Miss to Ms when I started to consider myself ‘grown up’. I noticed that once the boys reached a certain age, they went from Master and became a Mr, so I was like well why am I still Miss?

So, having kept my name, Mrs would be my mum’s name, which would just feel odd. When we first got married a few cards were addressed to Mrs and I felt like I had to hand them to my mum. It reminded me of those days of dread when the school sent a letter home addressed to your mum and you didn’t know if you were in big trouble. Not that I’m admitting that happened too often, of course!

We opted for a more modern wedding

Our wedding was also more modern. We scrapped some of the traditions such as ‘giving away’ and walking up the isle. I think weddings are such personal things, it just has to be right for you. I loved that Dan and I walked into the ceremony room hand in hand together. It was like we were walking into this new chapter of our lives together.

Even if you haven’t changed your name, others will

Just one point to note though, if you don’t become Mrs Husband’s name then be prepared for people changing it for you. I’m still politely correcting people 🙂


Whatever you go for, wishing you a long and very very happy marriage!

Lots of love,


Hi, I’m Helen. I run the lifestyle and wellbeing blog, Helen Loves. It’s all about inspiring you to live the life you love. With tips and tricks to live a more stress-free, simple life and boosting your confidence and self-esteem. I hope you enjoy! Lots of love, Helen xoxo

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  1. Avatar 23rd September 2018 / 11:41 pm

    Ohhh, I can guarantee at least one Christmas card at ours addressed to a non-existent “Mr and Mrs”. Usually from my dad, who you’d think would be pretty happy that I’ve kept my (unique!) family name.

    I get that it’s personal choice, and I’m glad that we have one, but I always get a little pang at the passing of another name on Facebook during wedding season. I’ve read a few of the same posts you have on this topic recently, so I’m glad to see somebody else presenting the other point of view (here’s my post on the topic, if you’re interested).


    • Helen Loves 24th September 2018 / 10:13 am

      Haha yes, you would think your dad would love you’ve kept your name! Although my mum and brother booked me a belated birthday meal at Aqua Shard in my husband’s name! Ooh brill, I will have a read of yours!! Helen x

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