I’ve been reading a few posts of late from ladies saying why they are taking their husband’s surname once they’re married. Each to their own. It is such a personal decision, but I often get asked about why I didn’t take my husband’s name.
Why I didn’t take my husband’s name
Personally, it wasn’t for me. I love the banter that Dan and I have and many of our inside jokes are over our surnames and I love our little partnership.
I don’t even have the ‘best’ of surnames, but hey it’s my name. The thought of changing my name felt a bit like becoming someone different and it just didn’t feel right. We did both consider double-barrelling to have the same name, which I know is another hugely popular decision.
I changed from Miss to Ms when I started to consider myself ‘grown up’. I noticed that once the boys reached a certain age, they went from Master and became a Mr, so I was like well why am I still Miss?
So, having kept my name, Mrs would be my mum’s name, which would just feel odd. When we first got married a few cards were addressed to Mrs and I felt like I had to hand them to my mum. It reminded me of those days of dread when the school sent a letter home addressed to your mum and you didn’t know if you were in big trouble. Not that I’m admitting that happened too often, of course!
We opted for a more modern wedding
Our wedding was also more modern. We scrapped some of the traditions such as ‘giving away’ and walking up the isle. I think weddings are such personal things, it just has to be right for you. I loved that Dan and I walked into the ceremony room hand in hand together. It was like we were walking into this new chapter of our lives together.
Even if you haven’t changed your name, others will
Just one point to note though, if you don’t become Mrs Husband’s name then be prepared for people changing it for you. I’m still politely correcting people 🙂
Whatever you go for, wishing you a long and very very happy marriage!
Lots of love,